Helpful Hints to Taming Tantrums
Focus on telling children what you want, rather than what you don’t want!
Children’s brains are wired to do the opposite of what we say. For example, say “we are walking” instead of “don't run.”
Consistency is crucial!
If parents don’t follow through with consequences, children will test boundaries. Consistent behavior will lead to fewer conflicts over time.
Offer simple choices!
“Do you want milk or water?” Choices can reduce tantrums and help children feel empowered. Just be sure the options are manageable and that you can accept either choice.
Less is more!
Approximately 93% of communication is shown through body language and tone of voice, so it’s important to show children what we do rather than just telling them. For example, physically guiding their actions (like placing a crayon on the table and saying crayons stay at the table) will help them learn.
When they go high, you go low!
When you see your child’s energy or mood ramping up, take your energy down; get down on their level, soften your voice and say less. During a child’s meltdown, they are often in a state of emotional dysregulation, making it difficult, if not impossible, for them to process and respond to external stimuli, including what you are saying.
For more information on tantrums and why they happen, read more HERE.